Vaishnavi J

To me, this behavior reeked of a modern-day neocolonialism.

Vaishnavi J Vaishnavi J

Age
35
Identifies as
Female
Heritage
Singaporean Indian
Industry
Tech
Location
San Francisco, California

A few months ago, I was the only person “laid off” from my team, and I think it happened because my manager wanted to punish me for filing an internal complaint about them.

I’ve been in trust & safety for more than a decade across leading companies, both as an individual contributor and a people manager, working on content moderation, product policy guidance, and addressing issues like child safety, bullying & harassment, eating disorders, and mental health online. And I’ve worked on these issues from San Francisco, Singapore, and Hong Kong, making my lens pretty global.

I joined Meta about 3.5 years ago and my manager was generally pretty absent. They rarely showed up for our meetings on time, never offered much guidance, and generally was pretty hands-off. Despite this, I built up a strong portfolio of work in my first two years at the company and got a lot of positive feedback both from my manager and my colleagues across different teams. My manager kept putting more work on my plate, praising my abilities, and increasing my responsibilities.

So about two years into the job I asked my manager what I thought was a pretty normal question to ask your manager: “What are my prospects for growth or promotion?” 

Overnight, they went from being appreciative to antagonistic. My manager immediately demoted me, reassigned my responsibilities, told me there was no business need for a promotion, and then proceeded to hire externally for that promoted role. Suddenly, they started telling me that I wasn’t “seen as a leader” or wasn’t seen as “senior enough”. When I asked for examples so that I could improve, they initially refused to provide any and then started inventing stories that never happened.

To me, this behavior reeked of a modern-day neocolonialism. As an Asian in policy, I was senior enough to take on complex strategic projects, build strong cross-functional relationships, and deliver impact for Meta – all as long as I kept my head down. But I wasn’t “senior enough” to be actually recognised as a leader, despite incredible support from other teams.

At some point, this constant exclusion and layering just scared me into silence. I convinced myself that I wasn’t good enough and I kept repeating to myself what another Asian colleague at Meta had once told me – “We’re brown girls. We don’t get a seat at the table.” I internalized what my leaders were saying – that as an Asian woman, I was destined to be a worker, not a leader.

It’s been so helpful to talk to other Asian colleagues and industry peers and realize that this anti-Asian discrimination is shockingly widespread. A study of EEOC data shows that while Asian women may be represented in the non-managerial professional workforce, they are severely under-represented at the executive levels. A May 2022 study by Ascend shows that almost half of Meta’s professionals are Asian American, yet only 25% of its executives are, resulting in an Executive Parity Index of 0.52 (where parity is 1.0). Our community is saddled with racist stereotypes like us not being collaborative, seeming untrustworthy, or lacking that mysterious executive presence. 

SwAA’s efforts to build a community of Asian Americans who can collectively heal and fight back against workplace injustice is incredibly important as we deepen our longstanding roots in this country. Sharing our stories allows others to know that they are not alone, that this isn’t something we can address on an individual level, and that we are mobilizing as a community to seek justice.

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Bamboo Ceiling, Laid Off, Lawsuit, Retaliation


Author Information

Vaishnavi J

Experienced Trust & Safety executive with more than 13 years of experience developing, scaling, and enforcing trust & safety policies at leading technology companies. Most recently, I led Meta’s youth policy team, covering apps like Reality Labs, Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, and WhatsApp. I have spent the last 13 years in tech policy leading leading high performing trust & safety policy teams, building and scaling functions, setting strategic direction, and advising executive leadership on trust & safety strategies. My work is global and multidisciplinary by default, having worked on these issues from San Francisco, Los Angeles, Mumbai, Singapore, and Hong Kong.


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Due to ongoing litigation, I am limited on what I can discuss currently. It seems surreal that I am writing this and representing many like myself who have experienced vicious and targeted attacks simply due to my race and ethnicity, and not because of our abilities. In my case, my application for a promotion of a newly formed position with responsibilities...

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Due to ongoing litigation, I am limited on what I can discuss currently. It seems surreal that I am writing this and representing many like myself who have experienced vicious and targeted attacks simply due to my race and ethnicity, and not because of our abilities. In my case, my application for a promotion of a newly formed position with responsibilities...

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